Nurturing Children

How to Develop in Children the Ability to Handle Personal Crisis

We all face disappointments and loss in life. Children do too. While adults might have a more developed mental capacity to understand the crisis they are going through, the same is not true for children. Your major goal as a parent should be to enhance the emotional growth and maturity of your children. One of the ways you can ensure this is to assist them successfully go through their inevitable moments of crisis and loss.

Norman Wright in his book, The Power of a Parent’s Words said: “…Often a child’s crisis experiences are minor in comparison to adult crisis, so we tend to express messages of denial instead of nurture the child through the experience.” The events and experiences which appear so big and significant to a child, might appear to an adult as a very trivial occurrence. So what you need to do as a parent is try to look at the event from the child’s perspective, considering his age and experience in life. Children often face such disappointments as a favorite toy that stopped functioning, not being selected for the school sports team, failing an important promotion examination, or not performing up to expectation, new clothes which do not perfectly fit, to mention a few. All these may look trivial to parents, but the biggest mistake you can make under such circumstances is to dismiss the child’s disappointment, concerns and worries or even deny the existence of the crisis.

What parents need to do to help their children face personal crisis or deal with a loss is to acknowledge their grief and the severity of their problem and affirm the child’s ability to deal with it. Parents need to identify themselves with what the child is going through in moments of crisis. To do otherwise will discount the child and hinder his or her growth and development. Do not deny the existence or severity of the crisis so as not to hinder the child’s ability to solve his problem.

What the child needs most at this point are nurturing messages. Parents should allow the initial grief to subside, then continue to nurture the child by suggesting alternative solutions to the problem. That way you can ensure the growth of your child not only emotionally, but also enhance his ability to overcome setbacks.

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